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UNPLANNED PREGNANCY HELP

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We Offer Unplanned Pregnancy Help for Arkansas​

YOUR UNPLANNED PREGNANCY COULD BE EXCITING, FRIGHTENING, OR A LITTLE BIT OF BOTH.  YOU MAY FEEL OVERWHELMED BY THE RESPONSIBILITY THAT YOU NOW FEEL IN MAKING A DECISION THAT WILL SHAPE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE AND THE LIFE OF YOUR CHILD.  THIS MAY BE CAUSING YOU STRESS, AND YOU MAY FEEL PRESSURED TO MAKE A DECISION QUICKLY ABOUT WHAT TO DO FOR YOUR CHILD.  ONLY YOU KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU, BUT IT IS IMPORTANT THAT YOU UNDERSTAND THAT YOU HAVE TIME, AND THERE ARE OPTIONS AND RESOURCES AVAILABLE IN THE STATE OF ARKANSAS THAT YOU MIGHT NOT BE AWARE OF. ABBA ADOPTION AGENCY WANTS TO HELP YOU ALONG THE WAY. 

YOU MAY BE WISHING THAT THIS HADN'T OF HAPPENED AT ALL, AND WANTING SIMPLY NOT TO BE PREGNANT AT ALL RIGHT NOW.  AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY IS A BIG CHANGE TO HAVE HAPPEN, AND IT’S EASY TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS WILL THINK OF YOU.  BUT THEY DON'T HAVE TO LIVE WITH THE DECISION THAT YOU MAKE REGARDING YOUR BABY…YOU DO.  AND NO MATTER WHAT, YOU CANNOT GO BACK, AND BECOME "UN-PREGNANT." YOU WILL REMEMBER THIS EXPERIENCE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, AND YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE BEEN PREGNANT. THE DIFFERENCE IN HOW YOU FEEL WHEN YOU LOOK BACK YEARS FROM NOW ON THIS POINT IN YOUR LIFE WILL DEPEND ON WHAT YOU DECIDED ABOUT CARING FOR YOUR CHILD.


FACING AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY?
ABBA ADOPTION AGENCY UNDERSTANDS THAT AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY MAKES LIFE A LITTLE DIFFICULT. YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT YOUR FUTURE, AND YOUR BABY’S FUTURE. WE HOPE YOU MAKE THE CHOICE THAT IS IN THE BEST INTEREST OF YOU AND YOUR BABY. I KNOW YOU MIGHT FEEL LIKE YOU FAILED GOD, FAMILY, BOYFRIEND, YOURSELF OR MAYBE SOMEONE OR SOMETHING ELSE. YOU CAN TURN IT AROUND! YOU CAN MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY. IN ORDER TO DO THAT, IT IS IMPORTANT TO BE INFORMED OF YOUR DIFFERENT OPTIONS. 

BY THE EIGHTH WEEK THE BABY IS WELL DEVELOPED, COMPLETE WITH FINGERS AND TOES, EVEN FINGER PRINTS AND A FULLY RECOGNIZABLE BODY.  THE BABY'S HEART HAS BEEN BEATING FOR OVER A MONTH. IT HAS AN ENTIRE NERVOUS SYSTEM AND CAN FEEL PAIN. THE BABY IS A SEPARATE PERSON WITH A UNIQUE GENETIC CODE DIFFERENT EVEN FROM YOURS, PROBABLY A DIFFERENT BLOOD TYPE.  THE BABY IS IN YOUR BODY, BUT NOT PART OF YOUR BODY. MAKE SURE YOU DON’T DENY YOURSELF THIS VITAL INFORMATION. YOU’RE NOT A CHILD WHO NEEDS TO BE SHIELDED FROM THE FACTS. IF YOU ARE PREGNANT, YOU ARE A MOTHER. ALL MOTHERS NEED HELP DURING THIS VITAL TIME IN THEIR LIVES. ABBA ADOPTION AGENCY IS DEDICATED TO HELPING YOU MAKE A DECISION IN YOUR UNPLANNED PREGNANCY YOU CAN LIVE WITH.

CHOOSING THE LIFE PLAN FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR BABY IS A HUGE DECISION AND RIGHT NOW THE FOCUS IS ON YOU AND WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO. THIS IS TRUE; IT IS YOUR DECISION. IN MAKING YOUR DECISION ABBA ADOPTION AGENCY HOPES THAT WE CAN GIVE YOU A FEW IMPORTANT THINGS TO TAKE INTO CONSIDERATION WHEN BEING FACED WITH AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY.

WHAT CHOICE WOULD BE THE MOST HONORABLE? WHAT RELATIONSHIP AND/OR SITUATION WOULD BE BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY? CAN YOU IMAGINE BEING TOGETHER WITH THE PERSON WHO GOT YOU PREGNANT AND/OR SHARING THE RESPONSIBILITY OF A CHILD FOR AT LEAST 18 YEARS? ARE EITHER OF YOU STABLE ENOUGH TO SUPPORT A BABY?  WHAT DO YOU THINK WOULD BE THE BEST CHOICE FOR YOUR BABY?  ABBA ADOPTION AGENCY CAN HELP YOU WEIGH OUT ALL YOUR DECISIONS.

 UNPLANNED PREGNANCY OPTIONS:

  • SINGLE PARENTING

  • DUAL/ SHARED PARENTING

  • MARRIAGE

  • ADOPTION



SINGLE PARENTING
SINGLE PARENTING IS THE MOST EXPENSIVE OPTION. THE TOTAL COST TO PARENT A CHILD RANGES FROM $1,000.00-2,000.00 MONTHLY. THIS ESTIMATE MAY INCLUDE BUT IS NOT LIMITED TO THINGS THE CHILD WILL NEED IN THE FIRST YEAR SUCH AS: DIAPERS, BABY BOTTLES, FORMULA, CLOTHING, CAR SEAT, DAY CARE, FIRST AID SUPPLIES, BLANKETS, CRIB OR BASINET, AND HYGIENE PRODUCTS. AS A PARENT YOU MUST LOOK FURTHER THAN JUST THAT FIRST YEAR OF BABY ITEMS AS THEY WILL QUICKLY GROW INTO OTHER STAGES, BUT YOU MUST ALSO BUDGET FOR SHELTER, FOOD, TRANSPORTATION, AND UTILITIES TO RAISE A CHILD.  WHEN ALL OF THESE EXPENSES ARE ADDED UP, IT WILL COST APPROXIMATELY $12,000-$24,000 PER YEAR TO RAISE A CHILD. THIS ESTIMATE DOES NOT INCLUDE EDUCATION AND OTHER ITEMS THAT A BABY OR CHILDREN WILL REQUIRE.

HERE ARE SOME QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER:

  • ARE YOU READY TO TAKE CARE OF THIS BABY’S HEALTH, SAFETY, AND WELL-BEING?

  • ARE YOU READY TO BE “TIED DOWN” AND NOT BE ABLE TO DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO?

  • IS THIS BABY INCLUDED IN THE DREAMS THAT YOU HAVE FOR YOURSELF?

  • ARE YOU READY TO JUGGLE WORK AND STAYING AWAKE DURING THE NIGHT FOR FEEDING?

  • DO YOU WANT YOUR BABY TO LIVE IN THE SAME SURROUNDINGS IN WHICH YOU LIVE?

  • ARE YOU READY TO PARENT THIS BABY ALONE?​

  • WHAT TYPE OF SUPPORT SYSTEM DO YOU HAVE IN PLACE?



DUAL/SHARED PARENTING
IT IS GREAT IF YOU BOTH WANT TO TAKE ON THIS RESPONSIBILITY. THERE ARE SOME THINGS TO CONSIDER THAT YOU MAY NOT HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT. LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND DOWN THE ROAD. WHAT WILL IT BE LIKE? DO YOU THINK THE TWO OF YOU WILL BE ABLE TO COMMUNICATE WITH ONE ANOTHER IN A POSITIVE MANNER FOR THE BENEFIT OF THE BABY? DO YOU THINK YOU CAN HANDLE YOUR BOYFRIEND MARRYING SOMEONE ELSE AND HAVING THAT OTHER PERSON AS A PART OF YOUR BABY’S LIFE? NOW, THINK ABOUT THE BABY, DO YOU WANT YOUR BABY TO LIVE IN TWO DIFFERENT HOMES? HAVE YOU THOUGHT CLEARLY THROUGH WHAT THAT WOULD LOOK LIKE?  HOW WILL THAT DECISION AFFECT YOUR BABY?

WHEN YOU ARE GOING TO DUAL PARENT, MAKE SURE YOU COME TO THE AGREEMENT ON THINGS, SUCH AS:

  • WHOSE TURN IS IT TO TAKE CARE OF OUR BABY TODAY?

  • WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO WHEN YOU HAVE PLANS FOR THE WEEKEND AND IT IS YOUR TURN TO TAKE CARE OF THE BABY?

  • WHO’S GOING TO PAY FOR WHAT?

  • WHO WILL OBTAIN HEALTH INSURANCE FOR THE BABY?

  • WHO WILL GET TO CLAIM THE BABY ON THEIR TAX RETURN?

  • WHAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN ONE OF YOU GETS MARRIED?


THESE ARE JUST SOME OF THE THINGS THAT WILL COME UP. YOU BOTH WILL HAVE TO BE VERY MATURE AND HAVE A VERY GOOD RELATIONSHIP TO BE ABLE TO DO THIS SUCCESSFULLY.  REMEMBER, THE FOCUS IS THE BABY, NOT YOUR FEELINGS.

 
MARRIAGE
IF YOU AND THE BIRTH FATHER WANT TO PARENT THIS BABY, THAT’S GREAT! A BABY NEEDS TWO LOVING PARENTS. BUT, IF YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED BECAUSE OF THIS PREGNANCY, YOU MAY BE FACING A LONG, TOUGH, AND BUMPY ROAD. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO HAVE DONE THIS AND BEEN SUCCESSFUL. IT DOES TAKE A LOT OF SELF- SACRIFICE ON BEHALF OF ANOTHER AND THE BABY.  NO ONE SHOULD APPROACH THE ISSUE OF MARRIAGE LIGHTLY.  MARRIAGE IS A LIFE-LONG COVENANT ESTABLISHED BY GOD.  ABBA ADOPTION AGENCY STRONGLY RECOMMENDS PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING THAT IS BASED UPON BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES.  IF MARRIAGE IS YOUR FOCUS, ABBA ADOPTION AGENCY WILL BE HAPPY TO HELP YOU OBTAIN PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING.

HERE ARE SOME THINGS YOU MIGHT WANT TO CONSIDER BEFORE GETTING MARRIED:

  • ARE YOU READY TO SHARE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF WITH THIS PERSON?

  • ARE YOU READY TO SHARE YOUR SPACE?

  • WILL YOU BE ABLE TO FINANCIALLY SUPPORT YOURSELF, HIM OR HER, AND A BABY?

  • ARE YOU READY TO COOK, CLEAN THE HOUSE, AND DO THE LAUNDRY FOR EVERYONE?​

  • ARE YOU REALLY READY TO LIVE WITH THIS PERSON?

  • CAN YOU IMAGINE YOURSELF BEING WITH THIS PERSON FOR 10, 20, 30 YEARS?

  • IS THIS HOW YOU WANTED THINGS TO BE WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED?

  • IS THIS THE PERSON YOU BELIEVE GOD HAS ORDAINED TO BE YOUR SPOUSE?  AGAIN, MARRIAGE IS A LIFE-LONG COMMITMENT AND SHOULD BE APPROACHED AS SO.  YOU SHOULD NEVER APPROACH MARRIAGE AS A “TRIAL BASIS”.


NOW CLOSE YOUR EYES AND ADD A BABY TO THE PICTURE? DO YOU SEE YOURSELF WITH THIS PERSON FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? IF THE ANSWER IS YES, THEN GOOD, YOU SHOULD BE THANKFUL GOD HAS GIVEN YOU PEACE. IF THE ANSWER IS NO, DON’T MARRY THIS PERSON. IT IS ALREADY GOING TO BE HARD ENOUGH TO BE MARRIED WITHOUT ADDING A BABY TO THE SITUATION, ESPECIALLY IF YOU DO NOT FEEL THIS IS WHO GOD HAS ORDAINED TO BE YOUR LIFE-LONG SPOUSE.


ADOPTION
YOU MAY FEEL LIKE YOU CANNOT POSSIBLY BE A PARENT RIGHT NOW, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU MIGHT WANT TO.  THIS IS UNDERSTANDABLE; PARENTING IS A HUGE RESPONSIBILITY THAT CONTINUES FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.  IT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF PHYSICALLY CARING FOR, TEACHING, AND DISCIPLINING SOMEONE ELSE, 24 HOURS A DAY, 7 DAYS A WEEK FOR AT LEAST THE NEXT 18 YEARS OF BOTH OF YOUR LIVES.  INSTEAD OF JUST TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN NEEDS, YOU NOW HAVE SOMEONE ELSE TO THINK ABOUT AND TEND TO ALL OF THE TIME.  YOU ARE PREGNANT; BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE NECESSARILY READY TO, OR NEED TO, BECOME A PARENT RIGHT NOW.

THERE ARE LOVING, MARRIED COUPLES WHO ARE WAITING FOR THE OPPORTUNITY TO LOVE AND RAISE YOUR BABY.  MANY WOMEN DO NOT LIKE TO THINK ABOUT ADOPTION AS AN OPTION BECAUSE OF THE PAIN OF GIVING THEIR BABY UP.  I URGE YOU TO READ ON AND CONSIDER THAT THIS IS A CHOICE THAT MEETS NOT ONLY YOUR NEEDS, BUT ALSO YOUR BABY'S NEEDS, AND THE NEEDS OF A LOVING COUPLE WHO WOULD BE OVERJOYED TO BE RAISING THE BABY THAT YOU HAVE CONCEIVED.

THERE IS NO COST TO YOU IF YOU CHOOSE ADOPTION! IN FACT, THERE IS HELP WITH PREGNANCY RELATED EXPENSES WITHIN THE STATE OF ARKANSAS AND ABBA ADOPTION AGENCY ASSIST IN COORDINATING THAT HELP. THE STATE OF ARKANSAS ALLOWS THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS PAY YOUR EXPENSES. EXAMPLES OF PREGNANCY RELATED EXPENSES INCLUDE: RENT, UTILITIES, MATERNITY CLOTHES, PRENATAL VITAMINS, FOOD, AND ANY OTHER MEDICAL EXPENSES NOT COVERED BY YOUR INSURANCE OR MEDICAID. AT ABBA ADOPTION AGENCY WE ALSO PROVIDE MANY MORE SERVICES TO HELP YOU DURING THIS TIME. YOUR ADOPTION SPECIALIST WILL ASSIST YOU IN PREPARING A BUDGET, TRANSPORTATION, COUNSELING, MAKING YOUR ADOPTION LIFE PLAN FOR YOUR BABY, FINDING JOB TRAINING, FINDING WAYS TO COMPLETE YOUR EDUCATION, HELPING YOU TALK TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS, AND HELPING YOU MAKE AN ADOPTION LIFE PLAN FOR YOUR BABY AND MATCH WITH THE RIGHT ADOPTIVE PARENTS. YOUR PREGNANCY ENDS WITH GIVING LIFE. YOU CAN FEEL GOOD ABOUT THAT AND POSITIVE ABOUT YOUR CHOICE